happy hearts day!!
valentine's day once again. for some reason, i like it this year. unlike the previous years,
there's no feelings of dread. no feelings of inadequacy. (haha, i'm not wearing black! i usually do in the past years for odd reasons) being single ALL my life, there were years that i questioned how 'unlovable' i must be to remain where i am: unattached. will it ever happen in my lifetime when i hear an xy say the words, "be mine?"? truth be told, i sometimes wonder if i am a failure for the inability to fulfill a basic evolutionary function: pair attachment. but i guess as you age you learn acceptance. you learn not to be hard on yourself because there are things that are beyond your control. to just let go and just live gloriously the best way you know how.
am i only saying this to not appear and sound like a loser?<!--more> NO. i'm saying this for the reason that i've accepted that one's marital status is not the end all and be all. in my mind now, it's very clear that there are upsides and downsides to being single, attached, or married. wherever one is in his/her life, loser - is not what one is. i guess there must be some truth to what i heard before about being where you are now is your green pasture. it's no accident why you remain single or in the bandwagon that is marriage (or battling annulment / divorce). singlehood is probably my green pasture and jumping the fence might be hell. OR probably taking risks and leaping with eyes closed could bring great rewards (or probably still hell, hehe)
that said, Happy Hearts, everyone!
let me leave you with this piece (question) taken from a short essay by one of my favorite authors, Kahlil Gibran. it's taken from a piece called "Rose Al-Hani". It forms part of the compilation called "The Beloved" Reflections on the Path of the Heart (Translated by John Walbridge).
I whisphered these words into the ears of the ether, then asked myself, "But is it permissible for a woman to make her husband's (or partner's) misery the price of her happiness?" My own soul answered me, "Is it allowable for a man to enslave his wife's (partner's) affections for his own happiness?"
darn. some question.
photo credit: istockphoto.com
am i only saying this to not appear and sound like a loser?<!--more> NO. i'm saying this for the reason that i've accepted that one's marital status is not the end all and be all. in my mind now, it's very clear that there are upsides and downsides to being single, attached, or married. wherever one is in his/her life, loser - is not what one is. i guess there must be some truth to what i heard before about being where you are now is your green pasture. it's no accident why you remain single or in the bandwagon that is marriage (or battling annulment / divorce). singlehood is probably my green pasture and jumping the fence might be hell. OR probably taking risks and leaping with eyes closed could bring great rewards (or probably still hell, hehe)
that said, Happy Hearts, everyone!
let me leave you with this piece (question) taken from a short essay by one of my favorite authors, Kahlil Gibran. it's taken from a piece called "Rose Al-Hani". It forms part of the compilation called "The Beloved" Reflections on the Path of the Heart (Translated by John Walbridge).
darn. some question.
photo credit: istockphoto.com
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